What started as a means to express my observations when riding the Delhi Metro is now about maintaining a not-so-personal diary about the "everyday" Life! Expect a lot of opinions, a love for the unusual, and the tendency to blog on-the-go, unfiltered, with bias, and ALWAYS with a cup of chai...[and some AI]
Why a Cluttered Work Desk of Cables and Connectors Quietly Erodes Your Influence
The Less Talked About Eight Anxiety Symptoms
What Is Neuroadaptation—and Why Medicine and Food Stop Feeling the Way They Once Did
You Are Not Overly Jealous or Sadistic to See Your Workplace Rival’s Misfortunes — But It Still Feels So Good. Why?
7 Tips to Keep a Straight Face When You Run into Your Ex When Shopping with Your Wife
Do anxious people make for more responsible, safer, or riskier drivers?
Left or Right? Is there a preferred side for dogs and cats to sleep?
How to work around an office colleague who is definitely a racist?
A Germophobic, You Used Bathroom Towels By Mistake – How to Redeem Your Sanitization Now?
Why the Wrong Towel Feels Like a Catastrophe
At the heart of germophobia is not dirt itself but the idea of contamination. Psychologists note that the fear is often “magical” rather than scientific. If someone with OCD touches a doorknob, their anxiety spikes not because they logically believe the knob is dripping with anthrax but because their brain treats it as inherently “dirty.” Once contact is made, contamination feels permanent, spreading from finger to arm to entire body. The same happens with towels. A shared towel feels like a sponge of invisible fluids: sweat, saliva, bacteria. The germophobic brain doesn’t pause to calculate risk; it floods with alarm. This explains why such episodes provoke more distress than genuine exposure events like touching money or sitting on a subway seat. The bathroom is coded as a “contamination zone,” so a towel linked to it feels catastrophic. Researchers call this thought-action fusion. The belief is that touching something “dirty” automatically makes one dirty, regardless of context. A split-second mistake becomes a crisis of identity: “I am no longer clean.” This inner rupture explains why such a small error spirals into panic for the germophobic.Science of Towels and Germs — What Really Happens?
Now for the less emotional, more biological side. Are towels really that dangerous? Research suggests that bathroom towels can indeed harbor bacteria if they are damp and reused often. A study from the University of Arizona found that nearly 90% of bathroom hand towels carried coliform bacteria, and 14% had E. coli. Towels left in humid bathrooms become breeding grounds, especially if not washed frequently. But here’s the nuance: for a healthy individual, the risk of infection is minimal. Your skin is not a passive sponge; it is an organ with layers of protection, oils, and immune defenses. Most bacteria on towels are the same microbes already present on your skin. Unless the towel has come into direct contact with bodily fluids or someone with an infectious condition, the likelihood of catching an illness is exceedingly low. The gulf between perceived and actual risk is massive. The germophobic brain inflates risk until the towel feels like a biohazard. In reality, a shower after accidental use or even a rinse with soap suffices. Science reassures; psychology resists. This is why managing such moments isn’t just about washing—it’s about soothing a mind convinced of catastrophe.Fear, Purity, and the Human Psyche
The fear of contamination is ancient. Germophobia, though clinically defined only in the last century, echoes humanity’s oldest anxieties around purity. Across civilizations, purity and impurity were moral categories as much as hygienic ones. In Hindu dharma, ritual baths in the Ganga cleanse not just dirt but spiritual pollution. In Islam, wudu (ablution) before prayer is both a physical wash and a spiritual reset. The Romans built elaborate baths not merely for hygiene but for symbolic renewal. Even in Christianity, baptism is a form of washing away contamination. What germophobia amplifies is this primal human obsession with purity. A bathroom towel mishap triggers a crisis that feels larger than hygiene: a rupture in moral or bodily sanctity. Anthropologists like Mary Douglas, in her seminal work Purity and Danger, argued that dirt is “matter out of place.” Towels are supposed to dry you; when a used one touches you, it becomes dirt out of place, collapsing the symbolic order. This explains why germophobic anxiety feels both irrational and deeply human. It taps into a collective subconscious where contamination is chaos and cleansing is redemption.
Learned Helplessness vs. Control in Germophobic Episodes
When someone with germophobia realizes they’ve touched the “wrong” towel, a sense of helplessness often follows. It’s not simply “I touched it,” but “Now I can’t undo it.” This mirrors the concept of learned helplessness in psychology: repeated exposure to uncontrollable situations trains the brain to stop resisting, sinking into panic or passivity. Control becomes the antidote. Washing, sanitizing, or scrubbing restores a sense of agency, even if the actual risk was negligible. The relief is not about germs being gone but about anxiety being silenced. Unfortunately, this cycle of fear–ritual–relief is the very loop that entrenches OCD. Each time one redeems sanitization through ritual, the brain learns: “My fear was valid, my ritual necessary.” Breaking this loop requires balance. Some ritual is fine—re-wash if it calms you—but learning to stop before compulsion takes over is essential. Without this balance, the wrong towel becomes the day’s defining catastrophe, trapping the sufferer in endless loops of washing.
Immediate Coping Strategies — Redeeming Sanitization
- So, what should you actually do after using a bathroom towel by mistake?
- Rewash Quickly if You Must: If the anxiety is overwhelming, take a short rinse. Make it deliberate, not frantic.
- Use a Sanitizing Step: Apply a light antiseptic body wash or sanitizer for hands if the towel touched limited areas.
- Reset Through Breath: After the ritual, sit and do three minutes of deep breathing. Inhale four counts, hold two, exhale six. This shifts the nervous system from panic (sympathetic) to calm (parasympathetic).
- Self-Talk: Remind yourself, “The towel is not a toxin. My skin is designed to protect me.” Cognitive reframing helps weaken catastrophic thinking.
- Stop the Spiral: Avoid repeating rituals. Once done, refuse the urge to wash again.
In practice, redeeming sanitization is less about scrubbing the body and more about calming the mind. Once control is asserted, the panic subsides.
Rituals Across Cultures That Mirror Germophobic Cleansing
What germophobic people feel today has long been expressed through cultural purification rituals. These serve as collective coping strategies for contamination anxiety.
- Islam: Ablution (wudu) before prayer, involving washing hands, mouth, nose, face, arms, head, and feet, resets not just the body but the spirit.
- Hinduism: Post-funeral baths symbolize washing away contact with death’s pollution. Daily ablutions in rivers sanctify the body before rituals.
- Judaism: The mikveh bath represents ritual purification after menstruation or impurity.
- Shinto in Japan: Water-based rituals (misogi) cleanse both physical and spiritual contamination.
- Christianity: Holy water at church entrances and baptism rituals frame cleanliness as rebirth.
These show that the desire to “redeem” cleanliness is ancient and widespread. The germophobic towel panic is, in a sense, a modern secular version of these timeless fears.
When Ritual Becomes a Trap
The danger arises when cleansing rituals stop being a relief and become prisons. Compulsive handwashing until skin cracks, multiple showers daily, bleaching towels after every touch—these behaviors worsen distress in the long run. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) for OCD emphasizes exposure and response prevention (ERP): facing small contamination events and resisting the ritual. For example, intentionally touching a shared towel, then waiting out the anxiety without washing, teaches the brain that disaster doesn’t follow. Over time, this weakens the contamination reflex. For germophobics, the bathroom towel incident is an accidental ERP. The challenge is to survive the panic without endless scrubbing. If achieved, it becomes a small victory. If not, it deepens the ritual trap.
Reframing the Towel Incident — It’s About the Mind, Not the Microbes
The final redemption lies in reframing. A towel may carry bacteria, but most are harmless. The danger isn’t infection—it’s interpretation. Germophobia magnifies risk into moral collapse. But just as cultures built rituals to soothe fear, individuals can build reframes:
“This towel does not undo my shower.”
“My skin protects me.”
“Cleanliness is in my care, not in my panic.”
Ultimately, it is less about sanitization and more about serenity. Redeeming oneself after the towel mistake is not washing harder but learning that the mind’s fear, not the fabric, needs cleansing.
Reflection
A germophobic panic over bathroom towels may seem absurd to outsiders, but it is the modern echo of humanity’s ancient battle with purity and contamination. From the Ganga to Roman baths, from wudu to chlorine, humans have always sought redemption after defilement. Germophobia simply personalizes it, amplifying one towel into a battlefield. The true exercise of redemption lies not in soap but in psychology. To redeem your sanitization is to accept that the body is resilient, the skin a fortress, and the mind capable of calm. The towel is not an enemy—it is a test. And every test survived is a step toward freedom from fear.
References
- University of Arizona towel bacteria study – https://uanews.arizona.edu/story/germs-love-damp-towels
- CDC – Hygiene and shared towel risks – https://www.cdc.gov/healthywater/hygiene/towels.html
- American Psychiatric Association – OCD contamination subtype – https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/ocd/what-is-obsessive-compulsive-disorder
- Mayo Clinic – Germophobia and compulsive behaviors – https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/ocd/symptoms-causes/syc-20354432
- Douglas, Mary. Purity and Danger – 1966
- WHO – Hand hygiene and cultural practices – https://www.who.int/publications/i/item/who-guidelines-on-hand-hygiene-in-health-care
- Harvard Health – Coping with OCD rituals – https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/when-to-worry-about-habits
- Islam – Wudu purification practices – https://sunnah.com/bukhari:159
- Hindu dharma rituals – https://www.sacred-texts.com/hin/index.htm
- Judaism – Mikveh bath purification – https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/mikveh/
- Shinto purification (misogi) – https://www.britannica.com/topic/misogi
- Christianity – Baptism and holy water symbolism – https://www.catholic.com/encyclopedia/baptism
- Journal of Anxiety Disorders – ERP therapy for OCD – https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/
- NIH – Cortisol, stress, and rituals – https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5573739/
- Cognitive reframing in anxiety treatment – https://www.apa.org/monitor/2017/07/anxiety
- National Institute of Mental Health – Contamination fears – https://www.nimh.nih.gov
- British Journal of Psychology – Thought-action fusion – https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com
- Indian Journal of Psychiatry – Rituals and contamination anxiety – https://journals.lww.com/indianjpsychiatry
- WHO – Obsessive compulsive behaviors in the global context – https://www.who.int/health-topics/obsessive-compulsive-disorder
- Scientific American – Why rituals reduce anxiety – https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-rituals-work/
The Pandemic Fear was Inside our Home [when someone tests positive]
My father just got his first shot of the vaccine after waiting out his recovery from what has now become an integral part of our lives - the Coronavirus. While I was making a reminder of the date on which he would be getting his second shot, memories of the first couple of days when my father tested positive rushed in. This happened on April 17th, 2020 - last year. He had been feeling a bit heavy in the head for a few days, and like many folks, his mask-wearing etiquette was rather questionable. He has always been someone proud of his immunity, the fact that he played cricket from the school to club level despite all the hardships, and he would never take a sick leave from his workplace [CITIBANK - the CITI never sleeps]. He did not have the reserves of energy to collect the pathology report, and with my bits-and-piece knowledge about the healthcare genre, I was trusted to gather it and confirm that he wasn't infected - we were rather sure about it. My father, falling ill? A smart betting man would never invest in this preposterous theory!
That time of the month for a Guy but is Mental Menstrual break a reality?

You cannot fight this logic, and if you try to do it, you really cannot win the argument. It seems the odds are stacked against explaining to anybody that this feeling of being unsettled and emotionally exhausted is not your typical definition of Stress. This is just like a bout of bad mental healt,h but it will be largely interpreted as being stressed despite having a life partner, child, job, and the comfort of your own home and a financial lineage.
While I am doing the daily chores, answering calls, and typing out emails at the speed of light, one part of my mind is also wondering if the childhood OCD has finally gone or did it manage to stimulate some sort of obsessive personality disorder? On such days, even when shopping online, Google searches can also route towards finding the best and easiest ways to boost dopamine or reading about the struggles of people who have been diagnosed with ADHD [adults], or worse, reading about bipolairsm.
When such days are underway, I wonder we can make people understand that this is something like the flu of the mind? It won't last for too many days, but while it does, I will not have a runny nose or a heated forehead, but I will feel diseased. Taking a vacation or driving to some idyllic destination isn't always an option; sometimes it just isn't feasible. Instead, I will hope for a meal or two to be served in bed, and perhaps, even when applying for a short leave or full-day leave from the workplace, I can actually say, "Sir, I am mentally exhausted and need a small break".
In comparison, women are hopefully taking advantage of clubbing their per-qualified "down" days with a mental health break. If you are a lady out there, and you are not using your time of the month to take a backseat, catch a breath, get some massages, and vent, SHAME ON YOU! While men will never have access to what can be described as Mental Menstruation, you can use the hormonal and biological menstrual days to take a psychological break and reboot your mental reserves, demanding the space you need, just gathering your thoughts and systematically, obliterating the toxic ones - letting them "bleed out" seems like the right thing to do, just for the sake of regaining your mental composure. When one of the genders has something working in its favor, in terms of social acceptance/recognition, at least use it properly rather than trying to be brave about it.
BEYOND PERSONAL OPINIONS: SHARING SOME INFORMATION ABOUT THIS SUBJECT GATHERED FROM THE WEB
Are men more vulnerable to emotional breakdowns?
There is no evidence to suggest that men are more vulnerable to emotional breakdowns than women. Emotional breakdowns can affect anyone, regardless of gender. However, societal expectations and stereotypes may make it more difficult for men to express and seek help for emotional distress. This can lead to men experiencing emotional breakdowns in different ways than women, such as through substance abuse or aggression, rather than seeking help from a therapist or counselor.
Do men suffer from monthly hormonal changes?
No, men do not experience monthly hormonal changes like women do during their menstrual cycle. Men have a relatively stable level of hormones throughout the month. Women have hormonal fluctuations that occur as part of their menstrual cycle, which can affect their mood, energy levels, and physical sensations. Men do not have these fluctuations because they do not have a menstrual cycle. However, men do have their own set of hormonal changes that happen throughout their lifetime, such as the decrease of testosterone levels as they age. Additionally, men can experience hormonal imbalances, which can result in symptoms such as fatigue, weight gain, decreased libido, and depression. These conditions can be diagnosed and treated by a medical professional.
Is there an age group among males that is more vulnerable to mood swings?
There is no specific age group among males that is more vulnerable to mood swings. Mood swings can occur in men of all ages and can be caused by a variety of factors such as stress, lack of sleep, poor diet, medical conditions, and medications. However, some specific ages or stages of life may have a higher likelihood of experiencing mood swings. For instance, during adolescence, boys may experience mood swings due to the hormonal changes that happen during puberty. Similarly, middle-aged men may experience mood swings as they go through andropause, which is the gradual decline in testosterone levels that happens as men age. Additionally, men who have mental health conditions such as bipolar disorder, depression, or anxiety may experience more frequent and severe mood swings. It's always important to talk to a healthcare professional if you suspect that you or someone you know is experiencing mood swings that are impacting their daily life.
Are men in their 40s more likely to have mood swings?
Men in their 40s may be more likely to experience mood swings due to the hormonal changes that happen during andropause, which is the gradual decline in testosterone levels that happens as men age. Testosterone plays a key role in mood regulation, so a decline in testosterone levels can lead to mood swings, fatigue, depression, and irritability. However, it's important to note that not all men in their 40s will experience mood swings due to andropause, and many other factors can also contribute to mood swings such as stress, lack of sleep, poor diet, medical conditions, and medications. Additionally, as men in their 40s may be facing other life changes, such as career, family, and financial stressors, these can also contribute to mood swings. It's always important to talk to a healthcare professional if you suspect that you or someone you know is experiencing mood swings that are impacting their daily life.
Should men try hormonal supplements to improve their mental health?
Hormonal supplements, such as testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), may be an option for men who have a diagnosed deficiency in testosterone, which can be confirmed through blood tests. Testosterone replacement therapy can be used to help alleviate symptoms associated with low testosterone levels such as fatigue, depression, and decreased libido. However, it's important to note that TRT is not recommended as a first-line treatment for mood swings or mental health conditions such as depression or anxiety, and It should only be considered after other treatments have been tried and have been found to be ineffective. It is also important to note that TRT may have potential side effects and risks, so it should be closely monitored by a healthcare professional. It's always recommended to have a thorough evaluation by a healthcare professional, including a physical examination, blood tests, and psychological evaluation, before considering any hormonal supplements. Also, it's important to address any underlying mental health condition and other lifestyle factors such as stress, poor diet, and lack of exercise that may be contributing to mood swings.
Why do some people still believe that men don't cry?
The belief that men don't cry is a stereotype that is rooted in traditional gender roles and societal expectations. Historically, men have been expected to be strong, stoic, and unemotional, while women have been expected to be emotional and nurturing. These societal expectations have led to the belief that men should not cry or show vulnerability, while women are expected to do so. These beliefs are reinforced by the media, movies, and TV shows, where men are often portrayed as strong and unemotional, while women are shown crying and showing vulnerability. This stereotype is also reinforced by societal and cultural expectations, where men who cry are seen as weak or unmanly. However, it's important to note that crying is a natural human emotion, and it is healthy to express emotions. Crying can help to release pent-up emotions and stress, and can help to improve mental and emotional well-being. Men, like women, have the ability to feel a wide range of emotion,s and it is important for them to be able to express them in a healthy way. It's important to challenge this stereotype and to recognize that men are just as capable of experiencing emotions as women and that it's okay for men to cry. Encouraging men to express their emotions in a healthy way can lead to better mental health for everyone.
Which Hollywood movie broke the stereotype about men's emotional health?
One Hollywood movie that helped to break the stereotype about men's emotional health is the 2017 film "A Star Is Born," directed by Bradley Cooper and starring Cooper and Lady Gaga. In the film, Cooper plays a successful musician who is struggling with addiction, depression, and emotional issues. Throughout the film, Cooper's character, Jackson Maine, expresses his emotions and shows vulnerability, crying and expressing his feelings. This was a departure from the typical Hollywood portrayal of men as strong and stoic and helped to challenge the stereotype that men should not show vulnerability or emotions. The film also showed the struggle of men with addiction, depression, and emotional issues, which a common issues that men face but often are not highlighted or talked about. The movie helped to bring attention to the importance of men's emotional health and the need to support men in expressing and managing their emotions. It's important to note that this movie is not the only one that broke this stereotype, but it's one of the most recent and popular ones that brought attention to the topic.
Which Bollywood movie broke the stereotype about men being sensitive?
One Bollywood movie that helped to break the stereotype about men being sensitive is the 2019 film "Kabir Singh" directed by Sandeep Reddy Vanga and starring Shahid Kapoor. In the film, Kabir Singh is a highly successful, yet short-tempered and self-destructive young surgeon who falls in love with a first-year student and struggles to come to terms with her marriage to someone else. Throughout the film, Kabir Singh's character shows a range of emotions, including vulnerability, hurt, and sadness, which is not commonly seen in Bollywood movies where men are often portrayed as strong, dominant, and unemotional. The film also highlighted the issues of addiction, self-destructive behavior, and mental health, which are often not explored in Bollywood movies. It's important to note that "Kabir Singh" also faced criticisms and controversies, as the protagonist's behavior was seen as toxic and problematic by some. However, it still managed to spark a conversation about men's emotional health and the need for men to be able to express and manage their emotions healthily. It's important to note that this movie is not the only one that broke this stereotype, but it's one of the most recent and popular ones that brought attention to the topic.
Is there an ad campaign that highlighted men as being sensitive?
Yes, there have been several advertising campaigns that have aimed to break the stereotype that men should not show vulnerability or sensitivity. One example is the "Man Up" campaign, which is a public health campaign from the UK that aims to encourage men to talk about their mental health and to challenge the stereotypes that men should be strong and unemotional. The campaign features men of different ages and backgrounds talking about their mental health and the importance of talking about it. Another example is the campaign "Real Strength is Showing Vulnerability" by the Canadian Men's Health Foundation, which aims to challenge the stereotype that men should be tough and unemotional. The campaign encourages men to talk about their feelings and to seek help when they need it. Additionally, "The Man Box" campaign by Promundo is a global campaign that aims to encourage men to rethink traditional gender roles and stereotypes and to challenge the idea that men should be tough and unemotional. These campaigns and others like them aim to break the stereotype that men should not show vulnerability or sensitivity and to encourage men to express their emotions and seek help when they need it. These campaigns also aim to create a culture where it is okay for men to show vulnerability and sensitivity, and to promote better mental and emotional well-being for men.
Is there a brand that pioneered the cause of showcasing sensitive men?
It's difficult to say which brand specifically pioneered the cause of showcasing sensitive men, as different brands have been working on this topic for different periods. However, some brands have been particularly vocal and visible in their efforts to challenge traditional gender roles and stereotypes and to showcase sensitive men in their advertising.
One example is the shaving brand Gillette, which in 2019 released an advertisement called "We Believe: The Best Men Can Be," which aimed to challenge traditional masculinity and encourage men to be their best selves. The advertisement featured men of different ages and backgrounds, showing them crying, expressing their emotions, and taking responsibility for their actions. The ad was praised by some for its message of emotional intelligence and self-improvement, and criticized by others as being divisive and portraying men in a negative way. Another example is the men's skincare brand, Dove Men+Care, which has been promoting the idea of "Real Strength" in its advertising campaigns, which aims to challenge traditional stereotypes of masculinity and to showcase men who are sensitive and emotionally expressive. These are just a couple of examples of brands that have attempted to showcase sensitive men in their advertising campaigns, but there are certainly many more brands that have been working on this topic. The message is that it's okay for men to be sensitive and emotionally expressive, and it's important for brands to take a stand for this idea, as it can help break down traditional gender stereotypes and promote better mental and emotional well-being for men.
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The original text: Male menopause: Myth or reality?
What is this about? The concept of "male menopause" refers to a gradual decline in testosterone levels in men, termed late-onset hypogonadism or age-related low testosterone, which is different from the abrupt hormonal changes women experience during menopause. Symptoms may include reduced libido, erectile dysfunction, depression, fatigue, and decreased muscle mass. Testosterone therapy is considered for men with significant symptoms after risks and benefits are discussed. Regular monitoring and further tests are recommended to confirm low testosterone levels before starting treatment.
The original text: Signs and Symptoms of Male Hormone Imbalance
What is this about? Male hormone imbalance can significantly impact various bodily functions. Symptoms include weight changes, excessive sweating, disrupted sleep, dry skin, blood sugar and pressure changes, fatigue, headaches, depression, mood swings, anxiety, increased thirst, and frequent urination. Hormonal imbalances can affect appetite, metabolism, sexual function, mood, stress levels, and body temperature. Recent studies indicate a link between lack of sleep, insulin resistance, and hormonal imbalance, particularly involving testosterone and cortisol, which may lead to Type 2 diabetes. Diagnosis involves medical history, physical exams, and blood tests, with treatments including lifestyle changes, hormone replacement therapy, supplements, and stress management.
The original text: Androgen deficiency in men What is this about? Androgen deficiency in men is a condition where the body has lower levels of male sex hormones, particularly testosterone. It can be caused by issues in the testes, pituitary gland, or hypothalamus. Symptoms include reduced libido, fatigue, depression, and decreased muscle mass. Diagnosis involves medical history, physical exams, and blood tests. Treatment typically includes testosterone replacement therapy, but it's crucial to accurately diagnose before starting. Self-prescription is unsafe. Older men should be checked for prostate cancer before therapy due to potential risks. The original text: 5 Facts You Didn’t Know About Men’s Health What is this about? The YuLife article highlights five lesser-known facts about men's health:
- Men die younger than women, largely due to heart disease and cancer.
- Mental health issues, such as depression and suicide, are prevalent among men.
- Testosterone plays a critical role in protecting heart health.
- Men are less likely to seek medical help and more likely to engage in risky behaviors.
- Regular exercise and a healthy diet can significantly improve men's health outcomes.
A really bad attempt at rhyming during the Pandemic...
2021: when birthdays aren’t ‘Less’ than any reason to celebrate!
The emptiness outside screamed at us, but it was voiceless,
Lives that have been turned upside down, seem countless.
The perennial worriers are learning how to be fearless,
Life-from-home helped those reconnect who were faithless.
Masked people still try to look good despite being rendered faceless,
Keeping distances nurtured human connections but they were nameless.
As death came knocking in our neighborhood, the circus of life seemed pointless,
The poorest among us were those without friends and not those who were penniless.
While we try to forget what has happened during this time, finding ways not to get restless,The lessons learned and the memories created will forever remain priceless.














